Divorce/Custody Proceedings + Child Molestation Proceedings= False Convictions

Studies show that the majority of child Sexual Molestation accusations that are claimed in child custody disputes are false. Look at this article/blog for the studies. Think about it, it makes sense. If you are desperate to keep your children, as most people understandably are, and are worried that they will be taken away from you, would you do the one thing that you knew would allow you to keep them? Facing allegations that a parent has molested or abused a child, what publicly elected official is going to grant any sort of custody to that parent? Exactly, no judge. That parent is straight-up out of luck.

However, once charges are brought against that parent based on these false claims, not only have they lost the right to see their children, but they are risking spending the rest of their life in prison. But, there are ways to fight these false accusations. It is important to find professionals who are experienced in defending against these false allegations.

David M Cantor is a sex crimes lawyer out of Phoenix Arizona and is a Supporting Member of the NCADRC.

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93 Responses to Divorce/Custody Proceedings + Child Molestation Proceedings= False Convictions

  1. frank wilson says:

    I had spoken to the mom about a divorce and talk to my children about living with me and the new lady and shortly after i was arrested for molesting my daugter. and my daugter testfied that i did . I need help . I go to trail Feb. 21 2012. I have ran out of money fighting for my life

  2. Kimberly Lalley says:

    Please help me get my story out! It is of great importance and is happening to so many children in our area.

    MY NAME IS Kimberly Lalley, and I am writing this statement because about 10 years ago, I made the biggest mistake of my life! I am not proud of what I did, infact I am outright Ashamed and embaraced that I did such a horrible thing to my own family. I knew what I was doing at the time was wrong but I figured it wasn’t that big of a deal and what was the worst that could happen to me (in my mind) was that I would get grounded and it would all be done with. I never had even a clue of what this would do to so many people and how lives could be ruined, and back at that age I really didn’t care! All I know is that some how some way I need to try to find a way to make this right as much as I can because I can’t bear to see the pain I have put my whole family through, and I keep thinking ” It has to stop some time” but it never does! My parents love me and have forgiven me, and I don’t know why after what I did. My dad hasn’t even seen his own 2 daughters (my step sisters in 10 years). I am so sorry and ashamed for saying my step dad molested me back then when he didn’t, and I am sorry for all the pain I have caused my whole family as this has torn my family apart and has caused my family great embaracement due to something so horrible that never even happened. I know I can’t give my parents back what they have lost and I can never make up for this, But maybe by doing whatever it is I need to do to correct this mistake, I can somehow help stop this from happening to another loving family! You can’t immaging how awful it is to see your own family going crazy and doubting their own values and actions all the while I sit here knowing that they did nothing wrong! And after (with help from a social worker and my sister) accusing my stepdad of molestation, and the court saying my mom failed to protect me, my parents still forgave me and love me, Now the CPS workers are saying that until I deal whith the abuse I supposedly endured years ago, They have now taken and refuse to return my child to me! I believe this is in retaliation because I won’t stick to the story they wanted me to tell.

    To my Mom and Step Dad ……. I am so so so sorry that words can’t even describe. I love you and hope someday I can make it up to you and to the girls and to the rest of the family, I had no clue how bad a lie could impact so many lives! Please forgive me!

    Kimberly Lalley

    • admin says:

      Kimberly,

      It takes a lot of courage to come forward when you have made a false allegation. We applaud your courage. Hopefully, your story can inspire others.

      • Jitender says:

        Please help me get my story out! It is of great importance and is hapnpeing to so many children in our area. MY NAME IS Kimberly Lalley, and I am writing this statement because about 10 years ago, I made the biggest mistake of my life! I am not proud of what I did, infact I am outright Ashamed and embaraced that I did such a horrible thing to my own family. I knew what I was doing at the time was wrong but I figured it wasn’t that big of a deal and what was the worst that could happen to me (in my mind) was that I would get grounded and it would all be done with. I never had even a clue of what this would do to so many people and how lives could be ruined, and back at that age I really didn’t care! All I know is that some how some way I need to try to find a way to make this right as much as I can because I can’t bear to see the pain I have put my whole family through, and I keep thinking It has to stop some time but it never does! My parents love me and have forgiven me, and I don’t know why after what I did. My dad hasn’t even seen his own 2 daughters (my step sisters in 10 years). I am so sorry and ashamed for saying my step dad molested me back then when he didn’t, and I am sorry for all the pain I have caused my whole family as this has torn my family apart and has caused my family great embaracement due to something so horrible that never even happened. I know I can’t give my parents back what they have lost and I can never make up for this, But maybe by doing whatever it is I need to do to correct this mistake, I can somehow help stop this from hapnpeing to another loving family! You can’t immaging how awful it is to see your own family going crazy and doubting their own values and actions all the while I sit here knowing that they did nothing wrong! And after (with help from a social worker and my sister) accusing my stepdad of molestation, and the court saying my mom failed to protect me, my parents still forgave me and love me, Now the CPS workers are saying that until I deal whith the abuse I supposedly endured years ago, They have now taken and refuse to return my child to me! I believe this is in retaliation because I won’t stick to the story they wanted me to tell. To my Mom and Step Dad . I am so so so sorry that words can’t even describe. I love you and hope someday I can make it up to you and to the girls and to the rest of the family, I had no clue how bad a lie could impact so many lives! Please forgive me! Kimberly Lalley

        • admin says:

          We commend you for having the courage to come forward and admit that you made a false allegation. Unfortunately, we often hear stories similar to yours. Please contact our office (419-865-0513) to see if there is anything that we can do to help you.

  3. Chris Enss says:

    I’ve spent more than a half a million dollars trying to get help for my brother. He is currently serving 20 years for something he didn’t do. The lawyers that I have dealt with only took my money. I have nothing now, and my brother is dying. Is there no one who can really help? This is the start of my story.

    Preface
    It’s taken me longer than I expected to complete this story. There were many, many days I had to force myself to write. No situation has ever affected me as deeply as my brother being arrested and subsequently watching him fade to nothing. Previous efforts to share this painful journey have been met with obscene, angry emails and even death threats. I realize I’m in jeopardy of a repeat performance of that behavior, but it doesn’t matter to me anymore.
    According to the Department of Justice more than 1.8 million reports alleging child molestation are made each year.
    1. More than eighty-seven percent of those reports are made by individuals going through a divorce or considering a divorce.
    2. Thirty-five percent of all allegations of child molestation prove to be false.
    3. Rarely is there any other proof needed than the victim’s statement to hold the accused over for trial. There is a ninety-seven percent conviction rate for those accused of sexual molestation that choose to fight the system rather than take a plea bargain.
    4. The lawyers handling my brother’s case informed me that all a jury ever needed to convict was the prosecuting attorney pointing out the man accused of sexual molestation and a nod from the alleged victim.
    5. I lost more than a brother when he was arrested in June 2002 I lost three nieces and a nephew. They were my brother’s children. They loathe me, in part because of the bitterness I feel towards them and their mother as a result of this horrific happening, but also I believe they need someone to focus their hate on and as a champion of my brother I’m the easiest target

    I’ve spent more than eight years investigating this case. In order to do a more thorough job, I became a private investigator. As a licensed private investigator I’ve been granted access to records and files I would otherwise have not been allowed to see. I’ve included all the records I could in this book.

    In the last several years I’ve met numerous people who have been accused of the same crime as my brother. I’ve met many individuals under the age of twenty-one on the sex offender list. One man made the list as a result of mooning a busload of high school students. Another made the list when he stepped outside a college frat party to take a leak at the same time a nine year old neighbor kid was taking out the trash. Prior to my involvement with this situation I thought the sex offender list was only for truly deranged individuals such as kidnapper and rapists Phillip Garrido, and John Wayne Gacy, a serial killer who abducted and murdered thirty-three teenage boys. The list doesn’t differentiate between a nineteen year old who had consensual sex with their seventeen year old partner and a middle-aged monster that kidnaps, rapes, and kills children.

    Every word of this book has been carefully reviewed by a staff of lawyers.

    6. I anticipate being called a liar. I anticipate lawsuits. I gladly risk all of that to tell my brother’s story and give voice to those falsely accused of vile acts against children for the purposes of revenge and or financial gain.
    Not so long ago someone told me that I was in denial. I was accused of being a person who just couldn’t admit what my brother had done. I’ve pondered those comments for months and can say without reservation it’s not the case. I wouldn’t be willing to put my life in danger for a psychological issue that could be corrected by counseling sessions with a qualified therapist. I believe with everything I am that my brother has been wrongfully accused.

    For those who insist they would never have pled guilty to something they didn’t do I sincerely hope you’re never faced with making that decision. A word of warning, however, if you’ve never witnessed a loved one being handcuffed and shackled by federal agents armed with AK-47s, never been inside the visiting area of a maximum security prison, never worked with lawyers who could care less about what happens because they go home at night to their families no matter what you decide, heard government officials threaten your parents, siblings, and spouse, you don’t know what you would do.

    • admin says:

      Dear Chris,

      For almost 30 years, our organizaiton has known the statistics, corruption, hardship, and pain associated with false allegations. We are also aware that most people do not believe that false allegations happen until a false allegation happens to them or a loved one. You are correct about the sex offender registry. The sex offender registry was originally designed to highlight true sexual predators of children. Now, anyone can very easily wind up on the registry. I do not know the facts or details of your brother’s case, but sadly, there are many people who have experienced exactly what you and your brother are going through if that provides any comfort. Let us know when your book is published. We wish you well.

      Kim Hart
      Executive Director
      National Child Abuse Defense and Resource Center

      • Dawn says:

        My boyfriend is in need of help.. Please.

        My boyfriend recently got a divorce almost a year ago. His ex wife loves to keep the kids from him no matter what she always looks for an excuse. Well recently she got black out drunk and texted him about things she shouldn’t of. It was about her life and her new husband. Well just a few days later my boyfriend tried getting the kids fire the weekend like court orders and that’s when all hell broke lose. She accused him of molesting his three year old daughter and called social services and the police. Apparently
        they investigated, but its almost been three weeks and he hasn’t been notified by anyone what so ever. He haa contacted his attorney to proceed and sue her for false allegations but un the meantime can he see his kids? He doesn’t know what to do and if he hasn’t been contacted legally she can’t keep them from him… Right? And its there anything else he can do..

        • admin says:

          He should have his lawyer file for change of custody to him on the basis of the psychological abuse his ex-wife is perpetrating on tyhe children by her attempts to get them to go along with the false allegations. As for “suing” her, most states do not allow civil suits for that.

    • bob says:

      was arrested for felony kidnaping on my job many years ago, when police brought a 9 y/o girl to identify me as the one who broke into her home late at night and assaulted her mother and grabbed her. I was actually with friends 50 miles away that whole evening, which was very easy to prove. I got off/walked – with a lifetime felony arrest record for kidnaping. Never was able to get a good job afterwards. “Luckily” I got seriously injured on a trash job in middle age and was finally approved for SS Disability. No more living in my car. Got a monthly motel room. But my life was/is gone.

      • admin says:

        People do not understand the damage of false allegations and the difficulty in getting arrest records expunged or sealed. Maybe you can find something fulfilling now that you have some stability. The best revenge is a good life! Don’t give up on finding happiness.

  4. Tammy says:

    I need any help I can get my brother is going through the same thing have a lawyer but money is getting tight. We are suppose to go to court in march which has been posted poned due to the judge can not make it that day now, they had offered him a plea but he said no he did not do nothing. The ex wife now had left that week on a monday but my bother had the kids, well what better way to get them back then to accuse him of melesting her child which was 9 my brothers (stepdaughter)this has took a toll on me & my parents. Yes if he would have done it then yes he needs to pay but I know he did not. The first time we went to court, the judge was gonna dismiss it but he said the prosecutor would just pick it back up because he saw with his own eyes she had lied. I can’t imagine putting my daughter threw this just for custody. I need to know if there is any free private investigators out there that can help get me information for certain places without going through the lawyer. I feel this is somewhat a money deal with county has my brother worked for county & hurt his back, due to that he had a work comp case against them. Well you know money talks & if the prosecutor can look good for the county & get him threw in prison then guess what they wont have to pay him. I feel they are all working together & I don’t have the money to get 2 different layers. Any help that you might be able to lead me to will be great.
    Thanks

    • admin says:

      Dear Tammy,
      For referrrals to Lawyers or Private Investigators you will need to call the office at 419-865-0513.

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  5. jane says:

    my ex husband has made false allegations of child abuse against me and false allegations of child sexual abuse against my husband. on february 14 i was greeted at my daughters school by dhs and a state investagator. the accusation said that i was beating my daughter and making her do all the laundry and that she had to watch her brother all the time and that i stayed on the computer all day and that i slept all day. the accusation said that my husband beat the kids and that he sexually abused my daughter. my daughter told the investagator that nothing happened and the case was unfounded. my ex husbands wife picked my daughter up for visitation on that friday and got mad that i had broke out the court order and made them meet me and my husband at the police station and then the next day we get another visit from dhs this time saying that my husband had again sexually abused my daughter. this time they ordered a sane exam in which it was said to me that my daughter went into vivid detail about what allegadly happened. my ex and i had not been getting along right before all this started. my husband has been charged with rape as a result of all this. it has torn our family apart and money has become very tight as my husband has had to move out of the home and i am currently trying to get a job because i was a stay at home mom for 5 years and we have 2 boys together. we have a court date set for april 9,2013. what my daughter has said in the accusation that i have been told by the detective doesnt match up with alot of stuff for example it was said that i had left the house upset to go get food i have never left my house upset. it was also said that my daughter was in her papjamas and when i leave the house to go get food kids are 99% of the time with me and there still in there school clothes when they eat supper. it was also said that he was in boxers my husband only wears boxers to bed and he works night shift and sleeps in the day while she is at school. my husband is innocent i need help to different lawyers.

    • admin says:

      Dear Jane,
      Call the office for an attorney referral. Our phone number is 419-865-0513.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  6. Jessica says:

    I am the loveing mother of 4 beautiful children and 2 step children and loveing wife of my late husband alvin burton, my own mother got mad at me and accused my husband of sexualy abuseing both of our daughters the state only picked up charges on 1 of my daughters cause my mother could only get 1 of my girls to say he did it he was innocent of both accusations my mother made these accusations and other similaur ones about my father and atleast 5 other men over the years before and after my birth in hopes to start drama get back at people or to later sue for money both my daughters are virgins yet the accusation was he brutally raped her with his penis my husband got so upset over the accusations and fighting this for almost 2 years he hung himself december 18th 2012 i know if i was smarter and stronger i maby could of maby helped him more i have a ton of evidence showing he just couldnt of did this even letters my mother wrote lieing about the case online to get attention and lieing on schools and apartment complexes like there was a town coverup to keep my children with there so called abuser i am begging if there is anyone out there who can help me i know my husband is not alive but he was innocent of these charges and shouldnt die invain he would want to be proven innocent i dont have much money but i can make payments of $1000 a month it isnt much i know but it is all i have to work with please someone help me and my children his children ty sincerly jessica

  7. Lori says:

    People say they lied as a child to get what ever but just dont say it here tell others publisize the mistake you made to help others .Stand up and tell all.
    Where are the protesting to change these laws??????? I have seen nothing reported on the news or by gov. people saying “Hey we made a mistake on this.We need to change this.Jitender stand up and say the truth for all to hear not just the website.
    We can not change things sitting here saying “I was lying”.This needs to be said to all the people that don’t know that this is going on.
    We need to go PUBLIC with what is happoning to innocent people and fight for change !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • admin says:

      Dear Lori,
      There have been 100’s of talk shows and news shows on the subject. The politicians know it is happening but won’t touch it. Until immunity is removed, those charged with conducting a thorough INVESTIGATION will not be forced to do them. Somehow in this country demanding accountability has become anti-child. Sadly, most people never thought about the falsely accused until it happened to them or someone they know. We encourage advocacy by lobbying at your Capitol and the sharing of stories. However, the problem is much bigger then politicians being misinformed.

      Keep up the fight as we all have been!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  8. Scott says:

    Kim after talking with you I will sleep for the first night restfully. Thank you for taking the time with my wife and I and have no idea why you give so freely. I thank you and when I get a chance I will pay it forward.

  9. Adam says:

    Let me start by saying i am in the UK and at the moment there is a firestorm in the country about child abuse because a well known entertainer who died a few years ago has now been accused and suddenly there were a few hundred accusations and the police are having a field day arresting people in the public eye on an accusation meaning they are splashed all over the media,there are many who are trying to get the law changed so that there is anomitity for people whi ahve been accused until a conviction as we all knowjust an accusation can destroy a life. I was accused by a friends daughter (I was VERY close to her mother) arrested and the case was dropped due to lack of evidence so i was never cleared or had my day in court to prove i was innocent. It later came out that she had made other accusations about males who were close to her mother (sexual and non sexual abuse) but she gets away with making the accusations every time. After 5 years ( i was still friends with the mother) the girl admitted she may have got what happened wrong and wanted bygones to be bygones and like a fool i refused to hold a grudge and said ok what a mistake. They were moving so i helped and there were a lot of problems with the house so i spent about a week there making it safe to live in,next thing i know is her mother says social services have been in touch saying she had made accusations against me again ( i know i was an idiot for giving her a second chance but i thought at 15 she had grown up a bit) my world came crashing down,the fear i had felt all those years ago rushed back,second guessing myself on if i may have said something that was taken the wrong way. Thankfully the police were not involved again (well didnt happen so how ould they) and the sick part is she has told her mother that she blames social services and wishes she had never talked to them as if SHE is the victim. If you are accused there is no way you can fight against it as too many people can not believe a child would lie about abuse but until it is made public how many ARE false things will never change. I found this site as i am writing about what happened to me and i am glad there is help for people.

    • admin says:

      Dear Adam,
      We are aware of the firestorm in the UK that is currently going on. False allegations are horrific and most people are just stupidly naive and trusting of the “system” put into place to investigate. I do not agree with you however that there is no way to fight. We have been fighting for almost 30 years and I myself have worked with lawyers all over fighting for the truth to be exposed and justice to prevail. The biggest problem as I see it is the immunity and anonymityfor reporters and the overall lack of advocacy by a large majority of defense lawyers. Physical and sexual abuse allegations of children are unique to the criminal defense world and many just don’t know what they don’t know!

      Good Luck to you and don’t be so trusting!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  10. mike says:

    I was falsely accuesed 2 times. I gave cops and cps the real truth on video about the other parent. My daughter said it about baby sitter. I know my daughter’s mom is doing this and I gave cps and cops evidence of it. They didnt do nothing. This is a nightmare im looking for any help i can get.

    • admin says:

      Dear Mike,
      As you know CPS is required to investigate allegations no matter how many times the call is made. If you can prove it is false, go the County Prosecutor and try to get them to file charges for filing false claims of child abuse. Don’t hold your breath though! Most prosecutors and law enforcement officers do not care about the false accusers, if they did, they would investigate it. You might want to consider hiring a lawyer and fighting for custody due to the repeated false claims.
      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  11. Emily says:

    Hello,

    My brother was recently arrested for false allegations of child molestation in Los Angeles County. He is currently being held in a high maximum protection facility. His ex girlfriend’s daughter from a previous relationship has accused him of child molestation and there are 4 counts against him, the worst which carries a life sentence. She just turned 18 and these allegations have devastated our parents, my siblings beyond belief! She has stated that this occurred b/n 2003-2007, a time which we know she never lived with them and had little to no contact with him. She has also been known to be a continuous liar, never respecting authority and has always “taken care” of her unstable manipulative mother who we believe has come from an abusive family. Throughout the years we have all advised our brother to end the relationship yet he didn’t as he still loved her despite their clearly evident tumultuous relationship. It has been a nightmare living through this daily yet we know that he would never even do any such atrocity. He has always been a loving father to his kids while his ex has refused to allow him his custody rights to see them. We have alot of evidence to prove from not only our family but from his neighbors and friends that he could never commit such a crime. We have retained a high profile attorney in LA. However, our brother is now asking for specialized attorney references in such cases. Can you please recommend a list of specialized attorneys in LA county/Orange County that we can consult with immediately? We are willing to pay for excellent attorneys yet we need some guidance on those that have not only a Proven track record, years of experience in such cases of sodomy allegations and are willing to communicate with our brother, our family of their progress so that we can keep up in preparation for his trial. We have been working tirelessly the past 3 weeks 24/7 gathering information that has already been handed over to the current attorneys. Fortunately, my brother has documented a lot of his conversations, arguments and dealings with his ex. We pray this will help him tremendously.

    We were not able to post bail at $500,000 and were praying the judge would be lenient at $300,000, our max. Unfortunately, that wasn’t successful. He has never been charged. We strongly believe that his ex is trying to get rid of him being allowed to see his kids, especially due to the fact of her specific actions, words and clear evidence. We also believe that her family is also part of this undermining scheme by the actions that have taken place throughout the past 7 years against him.

    We are at the early phases of this upward battle and ask for your assistance in guiding us to attorneys, private investigators who will not take our money and give us a fighting chance to bring home our brother and clear his name. Thank You.

    Respectfully,
    Emily

    • admin says:

      Dear Emily,
      Since it is an active case and the question I have to ask are delicate, I sent you a private e-mail.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  12. Beverly says:

    My boyfriend is currently fighting for his life. His 12 year old daughter has accused him of sexual abuse. Her brother, his son, is saying it happened. 10 years ago when his ex-wife had him arrested for domestic violence, he was acquitted. She then tried to get a restraining order three different times – no success. Now this. The ex-wife’s whole family, mother, father, and three sisters testified against her in favor of him. They have adopted him and disowned her. I met him in February, he moved in to my home in April and the allegations go back to May. Hmmmm. The only thing I really wonder about is whether we can have any retaliation on her for false allegations once this is all over? We are already going broke with attorney’s fees for battling the current charges.

    • admin says:

      Dear Beverly,
      There is little anyone can do with false accusers UNLESS you can PROVE they are the ones that called and PROVE they INTENDED to make a false allegation. Most people know who their false accuser is but the immunity statutes protect them and their identity on a state and federal level. It is very difficult to stop it. It is a crime in all 50 states to make a false allegation but good luck getting the police or prosecutor to do anything.

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  13. lynnette says:

    I need some advice on what to do like all of these people my ex husband has been falsley convicted of childmolesting his daughter an his two step children who said this happen to them when they were nine they are twenty four and seventeen which is a lie. They just came out with this aftere the mother lost custody of her and my ex husband two kids

    • admin says:

      Dear Lynnette,
      If your ex-husband was convicted by a jury he will be entitled to the initial appeal. A “Plea Bargain” complicates appeals and, often times, waives them. Your post is understandably vague so it is hard to address any specific issues.
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  14. Kris says:

    My fiance is currently being investigated after his ex made claims that he molested their 5 year old daughter. Here’s what we have: recordings, emails, and texts of the ex saying she will do “whatever she has to do to get him out of their lives.” She has asked him repeatedly to give up his rights. She threatened me last year saying if I didn’t leave him she was going to file false charges against me. We have recordings of the little girl asking him why mommy is so mean and why does she have to say bad words all of the time. We have 3 pictures of burning dolls (dolls I gave the little girl). The pictures were texted to my fiance by his ex. Also–this allegation came up after he said he was going for custody. (Convenient timing)

    We have a dozen people who will testify to his character including his other 2 children (both 12 years old from another relationship)and their mother.

    Police have already admitted her story has many inconsistencies. We also have recordings with her family saying they don’t trust her.

    We hired a lawyer, but he says he can’t do anything until formal charges are brought up. Is that true? Is there nothing else we can do?

    We are convinced this woman (and her new boyfriend) are either harming this child or brainwashing her or both. Yet, (like so many of these posts point out) investigators aren’t interested in that. What can we do? Just sit around and wait? What are his chances at custody now? He already got paperwork for a pre-trial date to terminate visitation. We feel so hopeless. Any help or insight is greatly appreciated.

    • admin says:

      Dear Kris,
      We are not lawyers so we cannot give you legal advice. With that being said there are issues that have to be weighed initially. Do you show your defense evidence which could be used against you as a road map for the prosecution hoping authorities will decline the case or do you show the information knowing nothing it will not make a difference and set up a defense strategy showing bias for failing to investigate other possibilities! Ask the lawyer you are talking with about the pros and cons of each as they relate directly to your case. Talk to the family lawyer about filing for a change of custody due to false claims. Being reactive versus proactive is normally not very productive in a positive way. Parents who are accused in Family Court are entitled to documents that they might not get elsewhere. It is always helpful for the criminal and family court lawyer to know each other and to work together for the common good!
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  15. cjk says:

    We are similarly situated as the commenter from CA. We are searching for help in the state of Minnesota. I am trying to do as much research as possible. Are there any resources that are available that would provide clinicians, criminal profilers, experts we might utilize in that jurisdiction? We need as much help as possible.
    In or situation, like so many others, the accusations of child sexual abuse came within the context of a divorce. We are also trying desperately to find a post conviction attorney we are able to afford. Right now, the going rate is approximately $15,000.

    The child’s parent told me that she knew nothing had happened; but this way, he would never see their child again. That was the real objective.

    Any information/resources would be very much appreciated. cj

    • admin says:

      Dear CJK,
      Our organization has the most concentrated list of experts of various professions and lawyers. You can call us if you have questions or want a referral 419-865-0513. A lawyer who understands false allegations will help with the post conviction issues. Please feel free to have your future lawyer call if we can be of help.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  16. rp says:

    My boyfriend’s ex has accused him of sexually abusing his 3 year old daughter during his visit with her over the holidays. Its been five months now since the allegations were made. The police detective originally on the case said there was nothing there and closed it. Even the doctor and professional group who interviewed the girl said there was nothing. The ex won’t give up though and has now gone to the chief of police who has reopened the case. My boyfriend now has to get a polygraph. There was supposed to be a custody hearing soon (she wants full custody and he wants custody due to false accusations/psychological abuse of his daughter – but that hearing, I’m guessing, will get postponed now. His ex has started a witch hunt and is so vindictive. I don’t know if she’ll ever stop.

    I’m having a hard time being there for him. He says he doesn’t want to burden me with stuff. I try to give him space. I try to be patient. And encouraging. Listen to him. Some days are good and others are far from it. He struggles a lot and is in and out of depression. He has to force himself to be “normal.” This is the hardest thing I’ve ever had to deal with. I know he’s innocent and I know he’s hurting – all the time. I want a future with him. I love him. But the future may not be what either one of us hopes for.

    Any advice or encouragement for me to help and encourage him? I just don’t know what to say to him sometimes. I don’t know how to help him.

    • admin says:

      Dear RP,
      We are not lawyers but we would not think it is wise for your boyfriend to take a polygraph without the advice of his lawyer. There are great problems with polygraphs and they are usually used as an interrogation tool, not a tool to seek the truth. Law Enforcement polygraphs rarely come back with a pass. Normally someone sits for them, believing the test can prove innocence and the police come back and say the test results are “fail” or “inconclusive”. Then the cop does a post poly interrogation trying to force an admission.

      There is a time and place for a polygraph but only with the advice of a good lawyer! As far as the emotional swings you are dealing with, this is normal. Remind him he is not alone and he knows the truth. He might want to consider becoming proactive and having a lawyer file a motion for a change of custody due to the false allegation and the emotional abuse that is being heaped on the child because of it. Just a thought. Talk to the lawyer or give us a call (419-865-0513) and we will see if there is any other recommendations we might have.

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      NCADRC

  17. Two important days in your life: The day you were born and the day you find out why. says:

    Long story short. All the stories above are all too familiar sounding to me. My innocent father-in-law is now serving a prison term after a jury trial for sexual abuse to his granddaughter; false allegations that arose during a ugly custody battle between my husband and his former spouse over my husband’s daughter. An absolute nightmare that we have not woken up from. I am a paralegal for the Attorney General’s office in my state. I am interested learning if there are any other states that have initiated a bill or some model language for a bill and would be interested in submitting one for upcoming legislation to stop this from happening to others.

    • admin says:

      Dear Ortiz,
      Sadly, I have been a registered lobbyist for almost 30 years. The politicians are fully aware of the problems surrounding false claims. If you are going to try to do anything at all, I would suggest that the simple request of removing immunity, thereby holding all people involved in the investigation/prosecution of child abuse accountable for what they do and fail to do!

      After you break that barrier I will be happy to supply the next big one!

      Good Luck and let us know if we can help.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  18. JM says:

    I’m writing because I am curious; What does someone who has been wrongfully convicted, has already served his time, and has now been released do to clear his name? In this case, Daniel, a divorcee with three kids of his own, was accused of molesting his ex-girlfriend’s five-year-old daughter. The ex-girlfriend was spurned by the break up and had found out that Daniel was dating someone else. She went back to her previous husband (who was violent and in-and-out of jail) – and not long afterwards, Daniel was being charged with molesting the girl. The little girl changed her story several times. There was no evidence to support the allegations, and Daniel trusted that the system would see that the allegations were ridiculous. At the time, he was in his mid-40’s, never a criminal records of any sort – he was an organic farmer and mountain climber/hiker. During the first trial, Daniel had a huge turnout of supporters (including his own kids and ex-wife!). Of the more than 100 character witnesses, not a single one doubted his innocence. I’ve been around abused children and Daniel’s kids were sooo far from damaged in any way (two of them are college grads who graduated with honors), they are the kindest (also smart and positive)family I’ve been around. The first trial was a mistrial/hung jury. The second trial (without the use of the first trial evidence) was a nightmare – the appointed public defender was an utter failure. Daniel was convicted of 8-10 years. It was devastating! Daniel and his family were absolutely shocked. Daniel has now been released and will be on parole for three years. He has a tracking device attached to his leg. My friends (Daniel’s daughters) have endured a torturous amount of grief at having lost their father for eight years. But now, things are really awful. The restrictions by which Daniel has to adhere in order to find housing are impossible. No where near parks, schools, beaches, state parks, national parks (he can’t live beyond a fifty mile radius of his designated parole area). He must report to whomever he attempts to get housing from that his is a sexual predator. Is there something this family (who’ve suffered enough) can do to clear his name so that Daniel can have his normal life back? Any suggestions would be a big help.
    Thanks!

    • admin says:

      Dear JM,

      Sadly there is nothing he can do. This is a byproduct of the “Adam Walsh Act” and I do not see it becoming reasonable any time soon. Depending on the Tier Level Daniel carries will tell you if there is any hope of being released from the restrictions, don’t hold your breath.

      Daniel MUST comply and keep moving around until he finds a place that fulfills the requirements or he could be re-incarcerated.

      In some Counties/Cities there is no hope like Ft. Lauderdale and Miami. People there have resorted to living under overpasses. It is a horrific situation, and the politicians do not care about those falsely accused.

      Truly the less problematic locations are farms where there are no meaningful neighbors and no schools or prohibited areas close by.

      There are a lot of people on the registry and it is survivable but you have to remember to follow the rules so it does not become worse!

      Good Luck,

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  19. HEJE says:

    My husband has been falsely accused of molestation of a juvenile. We have been thru a jury trial, and he was convicted of molestation of a juvenile on March 19, 2013. The conviction came from a sympathetic jury, as there is NO evidence. There is a videotape from the Gingerbreadhouse,there are hearsay statements, DA taking defendant’s statement out of context. In my opinion if someone is going to spend 25 yrs of h ard labor there should be some evidence. The judge delayed his sentencing for 90 days. On June 19, 2013 we had a hearing on the motion of aquittal. The judge stated that he does not have the authority to overturn any judgment made by the jury. I am at a loss. My husband has court ordered custody of his 14 yr old daught and custody of his 2 sons. I have custody of my children. At anytme we h ave 5 kids at our house. If my husband is so guilty why didn’t children services ever come to visit my kids or even try to talk to them. My husband does not deserve to be in jail. please help. my kids and i need him home.

    • admin says:

      Dear HEJE,

      All you can do is appeal at this point. Sadly as you have discovered, evidence need not be required to take away all of the liberties of a man/woman accused of child abuse.

      Our system is completely broken and the defendant has the full burden of proof, regardless of what the Constitution says. The problem is that the defendant is put into the position of trying to prove he did not do something.

      Make sure you have a good appeals lawyer. There are very few times I would recommend that the trial lawyer would do the appeal. So, try to get someone new!

      Kim Hart
      Executive Director
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  20. Michelle says:

    Do you have any suggestions for those who cannot afford legal counsel. My son has been falsely accused by his biological daughter who is 8 and her mentally ill mother. This situation fits the most common scenario for making false allegations like a glove.
    The child has been severely alienated and kept from my son for months preceding the allegations. The mother is a borderline PD with symptoms of Munchhausen by proxy who has abandoned the kids many times and subjected them to constant violent fits of rage. She has made at least 2 suicide attempts in front of my granddaughter. The child has had severe accidents and injuries and at one point the maternal grandmother had temporary custody of her-this was just after the child -who was under 2 at the time- broke her leg. We have never gotten any acceptable explanations for these illnesses and injuries which also include an overdose of tylenol pm among other things. We have been given multiple versions and stories regarding how these events occurred. The mother has been prescribed anti psychotics but does not take them. She has also claimed the child has autism at one time and schizophrenia another time. The police have been dispatched to her their home numerous times because the mother was out of control throwing rage fits and destroying her mother’s home. they would usually cart her off to the psych ward for a few days and the kids go through that on a regular basis. My grandchild her siblings and mother live with the child’s maternal grandmother. The whole family has lived on welfare for 3 generations and commit welfare and tax fraud regularly.This woman collects every available form of public assistance and then extorts the fathers for child support in cash or they can’t see their kids. She has been known to be violent and has assaulted people. As a juvenile she put out a girls eye in a fight. Our family and other concerned parties have made numerous calls to child protective services and they have done nothing??? These calls were placed long before my son ever met her-we have been trying to get her into a safer environment for years. Her maternal grandmother covers up for her sick daughter and allows this insanity to continue. When the mother takes off ( sometimes for several months at a time) the kids are passed around to whoever will take them. The mother has been placed on multiple psychiatric holds and is generally known even by police in the area to be a pathological liar. Several of her own family members have actually said they hate her and their pastor has said it would be best for the kids if the mother took off and never came back. (The pastor was False Allegation number #!) The police that know her call her “crazy (insert name here)” and say nobody believes a word she says. There was recently a 911 call placed by my 8 yr old granddaughter because her mother was out of control and she was afraid. the child was so upset she told her school counselor about it. These children are used as a tool by the mother to manipulate those who genuinely care about the kids and as a meal ticket through the welfare system. My son was complaining about the level of care his daughter was receiving and they argued several times over custody. She would not let him have any parental rights whatsoever-he saw his child when she decided and if she chose to cancel the visit before during or after he had no choice but to comply with her ridiculous whims.
    This woman has many motives for making the false allegations -too many to list here. AGAIN-THIS IS HER FOURTH FALSE ALLEGATION- the first two were informal not taken through the courts but were well known by the family and friends-the 3rd allegation was against the father of her other 2 children. It was found to be untrue after he passed a lie detector and the child who was 4 at the time would not talk -she was apparently too young to keep the story straight.
    My son did not meet his daughter until she was 5 yrs old due to his incarceration for getting into a fist fight with another man. When he was released he did all the right things and stepped up to be a responsible father. He has some issues but pedophilia is not one of them. He was a great dad and most single moms would be thrilled to have a father take an active interest in their child. She would not allow him to enroll his daughter in any activities unless he paid for her younger sister as well who is not even his child. In fact many times she would not let him take his own daughter unless he also took her younger sister also just so she could have a free weekend plus she said it was not fair for my granddaughter to get to do fun activities like swimming and movies when the little sister did not?
    Nobody who knows my son believes he is guilty including some members of her family. He tried to develop a relationship with his daughter and bond with her but every time they would make progress the mother would keep his daughter from him for several weeks and then report that the child did not want to see him. He begged the mother to allow him to go to counseling with the child (how many molestors do that?)and the mother refused probably because she fears some of the horrible things she has done will surface. His girlfriend and her child also stayed with them most of the time or he had some of her cousins so he can’t figure out when they are even saying it happened just sometime between 2012 and 2013? The police have completely ignored her mental health/ alcohol abuse/violent manipulative behavioral history-She is well known as a pathological liar even by the local police and but the cops refused to even address those issues. They saw my son had a record for fighting and figured it would be a slam dunk conviction because he has a prior record. the “investigation” has been the most ridiculously biased situation i have ever seen with the female detective on the case putting outright lies into the police report and omitting any info that did not serve her purpose. this “cop” (criminal with a badge) told me on no uncertain terms that her mind was made up before she ever spoke to my son based solely on the disclosure of his daughter who has been subjected to a lifetime of abuse neglect alienation and abandonment has been manipulated and brainwashed by her mother. the child displayed explicit sexual knowledge and behavior long before ever meeting my son. We have to supervise the kids because other family members have expressed concern that their children would be exposed to my granddaughter’s inappropriate sexual behavior and talk. They have set a ridiculously high bond and made it cash only so we cannot work with a bondsman. My son has been sitting in jail and has lost his home his business and car and has no way to earn money for his attorney. They could potentially sentence my 33 yr old son to 109 years for these charges. The public defender is a death sentence. He has begged for a lie detector but they have refused to allow him to take one. How many guilty molesters beg for a lie detector??? The lawyer wants $15000 plus additional fees for depositions and expert witnesses and we are not able to pay that or even make payments at this time. We had a retainer and hired an attorney but due to the high bond my son cannot work to provide for his defense and I am worried that if we can get some money together the attorney will let it go to trial just because they make double that way as opposed to a pre trial dismissal. He has been in jail for 90 days and the grand jury meets on his case in 2 weeks-His lawyer said we can do nothing until then -Is that correct? I cannot believe the grand jury is only allowed to hear the prosecution and nothing from the defense???
    That makes no sense at all? How is that fair? Taxpayers need to know their money is being spent to prepare trials and move forward on cases where all the information has not been properly evaluated.
    This situation is so insane I can hardly believe it is happening-any suggestions as to how we can get quality legal counsel at a lower rate? Does anyone do pro bono work in the Missouri area?
    Thanks for any help

    • admin says:

      Dear Michelle,

      There are some really good Public Defenders in Missouri. As in any profession, there are good and bad public defenders. Sadly, we do not have lists of pro bono lawyers and I would take a public defender before a lawyer that takes one of these pro bono because of how much work they are. I have worked in Missouri and the Public Defender Association knows who we are. Don’t sell the PD short just because he/she is a PD.

      You might want to sell whatever your son has left and keep it in reserve to help the PD if their funds are not enough to cover things.

      You and your family need to collect and organize as much documentation as you can to give to the PD. Missouri is actually a State where you can defend yourself because of the depositions. Give the PD tools to use. If the PD does not follow through with things, he/she always have bosses! Document your communications by keeping copies of everything provided.

      REMEMBER: EVERYTHING YOU SAY TO YOUR SON ON THE PHONE IS RECORDED AND LETTERS WRITTEN ARE READ! Be Careful!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  21. Cajuncutie says:

    My wonderful loving husband is being accused by my daughter of him (stepfather) touching her down there 4 years ago. She says it only happens 2 times and never happened again. I totally don’t believe her. She’s spoiled, wants her way, wants to date who ever she wants. This is all a mess. With no proof my husband was arrested and we are having to go to trial. I was praying counseling would work this out but now the courts are pressing charges. Her word against his. Money is running out. We are fighting for our lives and meriage and family. We have a son together. My daughter could care less. How do I get her to own up to what she has done? How do you get through to a teen who doesn’t care about anyone but themselves.

    • admin says:

      Dear Cajuncutie,

      You are in a difficult position. Remember, I am not a lawyer but my experience as a trial consultant is that if you try to talk to her logically, you will run the risk of being charged yourself with witness tampering or intimidation. I suspect you will need a defense expert to explain memory issues that might help the jury disbelieve her.

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  22. Jennifer says:

    I have read everyone’s posts and I am still in search of some help. I am 28 yrs old with a 8yr old daughter who has been accused of sexually molesting her 5yr old step sister. My husband and I each have a daughter from a previous marriage. We have been together since the girls were 1 & 4. They basically grew up being sisters. I have treated my step daughter like my own daughter and made no differences in them. The oldest daughter calls her step father daddy and biological dad is not in her life. My husband is so great with the kids. He also grew up with no dad, so he tries his best to be the best one he can. His ex wife left him while she was pregnant with their daughter. From the moment she was born she had tried to keep him from seeing her. Now she lives at home with her parents…..had another baby by another man whom she isn’t with…….Now that I’ve told ya a little history on me I would love to share my story. The 8 yr old is an honor student with no behavioral problems. The 5 yr old has allergies, asthma, and speech problems. The mother filled a report against the 8 yr old at the sheriffs office. My husband and i were called in for questioning. I had no idea whatto

    • admin says:

      Dear Jennifer,

      CALL THE OFFICE FOR A REFERRAL. There appears to be this increase of accusing juveniles. Please take this seriously. Our number is 419-865-0513.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  23. Jennifer says:

    At this point i had faith in the system, but now i know otherwise. The detective to her in an interrogation room and said who knows what makes her cry. Detective was rude to me and my husband we got a lawyer went to court. They had no good evidence and tons of bad against the other mom. Yet my daughter is still the alleged perpetrator. Guardian ad litem was appointed. Of coarse on her side. Now we have to keep the girls separated. This is killing my family, took all of our savings, we lost our jobs due to loss time from work. My husband and i work at Walmart while trying to fight for our daughters lives. Somebody please help us know what the right step is next.

    • admin says:

      Dear Jennifer,
      Sorry I did not see the second post. Your lawyer needs to consult with a mental health professional. You have an uphill battle and have to be able to give the judge a reason to not adjudicate your daughter as an abuser.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  24. Lost says:

    My husband has been charged with a 1st & 2nd FS. His ex’s niece claimed he had oral sex with her when she was 14. The ex took their two children to several different doctors and counselors trying to create a record and have him arrested. She is angry he left her (crazy angry) and that we were going to fight for custody of their daughters. I am a paralegal for a criminal defense attorney and have done the defense investigating. We have records of her starting to one counselor that “she wants him to be charged with child sexual abuse o stop visitation”. The prosecutor said she knows of the contradictions in the story and would rather go to trial and loose than have to deal with the family they are constantly calling her and having BACA call her as well. We have evidence that refutes the claims other than that particular day in question. His employer doesn’t have records from that far back (he would have been working that day). The state took almost 1 year to file, the case sat on her desk
    For 11 months and she has admitted this is a problem case and I feel she hasn’t paid much attention to it. We have hired a CD atty who worked as the prosecutor at the AGs office and said he knows their methods. Trial has been set for January. As you and everyone knows this is devastating. As I sit here and read all these posts, I cry because I wonder if he will go to prison because of a vindictive family. I wonder if there is anything more we can do. So many falsely accused sit in prison tonight, lonely and in fear. I am a mess because I work in the field and I know it is a big game. Can you give me some advice as to what more we can do? Looking for some hope but Iread these posts and feel worse. Thank you for your time.

    • admin says:

      Dear Lost,

      What types of experts are you using? I your lawyer lets this been your husband’s word against his ex-niece, he very likely could lose. Jurors err on the side of safety and you have to give them a reason to not believe her. Don’t lose hope, it can be done!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  25. Lost says:

    Continuation of my last post…. he has taken a poly and psychosexual and passed both with flying colors. He wants to give them both to the family but I don’t think he should. We have an expert that completed the eval and can bring in the poly, Will it help? The attorney said it will buy he isn’t giving us much. Maybe he doesn’t want us to get out hopes up or put himself in a position to where we are hanging on his word. I forgot to add that I’m my last post, sorry about that. Again, thank you! Lost

    • admin says:

      Dear Lost,
      Sorry did not see additional post. Psychosexual exams and polygraphs are used mostly in mitigation for plea bargains and for lesser sentences and not admissible in most states unless by stipulation. These are not the type of experts I am talking about. There are very few instances where I (as a consultant) would suggest these tests due to expense and utility.

      You might ask your lawyer if there are any other experts he/she might consider using.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  26. BlairW24 says:

    After my grandfather passes away two sides of my family formed. The side who inherited the estate including insurance (my mother and uncle) and was trusted my my grandfather to divide the money, and the side who had to wait to receive their inheritance (my aunt and her family) Tention built for weeks as my grandfather lingered in hospice.

    The day after the funeral the will was to be read and actions set in motion to sell the house and take inventory of his estate. As the will was read my Aunt burst into what can only be described as uncontrollable anger, she screamed at her family until she was shaking, telling them all they were going to hell and pit of nowhere accoused my uncle of being the reason his daughter ended her life years ago. My mother and uncle evacuated the premises. my father raised his voice to her telling her she needed to calm down and she screamed in his face “I’ll prosecute you! You know what you’ve done!”

    My father in fact did not know what he’d done and was not worried because he is an upstanding member of the community, has never been in any legal trouble, and has always been a responsible father and husband. He figured that it was an empty threat made out of anger.
    That’s when the manic crazy emails start! An open 5 page email ranting to the entire family is sent, making many accusations against my uncle and father. Alleged Violence from my uncle and the disgusting horrific act of child molestation done to one of her grandchildren against my father. He never saw this coming, is shocked and mortified and am I and my mother. no one responded to the email, because nobody believed it except her own children and grandchildren. Another email was sent out by her daughter, a lawyer, specifically accusing my father and naming the grandchild by name. She claimed that it happened when she was a child, she is now 22 years old. I have no idea when the grandchild made the accusation, years ago? A few days ago? If it was years ago they never said anything about it until now! If it were true wouldn’t they have?

    Today I told my dad to look into getting a no contact order or a protective order, but what else can he do to defend himself! The girl an my dad have never even been in the same room together! She only came over for holidays and he never babysat her, she never spent the night! The girl has also made ther molestation accusations against at least 1 man years ago!
    What is my dads next step besides seeking an attorney?
    Thanks for any help and sorry for the long post! It’s just so scary!

    • admin says:

      Dear Blair,
      You are right a lawyer that understands these allegations is first. After you get the lawyer family interviews should be done sooner than later. People lose their minds when allegations are made. There are very specific things that the interviews need to include. Start collecting family photos also. Keep copies of all of the posts and any e-mails. I personally think it is a mistake for everyone to cut of communication. How do you spy when there is no contact.

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse & Resource Center

  27. ana says:

    I need some advised, my husband was accused by my mother by in 2004 for sexually abusing my daughter she was 8 at the time, its was just days after i have given birth to her step sister. My daughter never came to me or my mother or school counselor with this allegations instead apparently she told a cousin while walking from school. The cousin said she asked her how did my husband treated her and thats when she apparently told her he was abusing her. Then my they told my mother what happend and my mother interrogated my daughter and went to police . My husband was arrested he didnt know english at the time and had not legal papers, my mother came to my house before going to police and told my husband if he lived the country she wouldnt go to police, but he said he never did anything so he wasnt going to leave so she ended up going to police anyways. He was sent to jail for 3 months then we posted bail and hired a private attorney. Just right before his trial a family of my husband die over seas and he used a prior permit he had to travel thinking he will be able to come back to USA to to go to trial when he tried to enter the US he was denied cause permit had expired and he didnt know. Its been 10 years he was a warrant for his arrest in the US for not going to the trial. He says he wants to clear his name as his alwasys maintain his innocent. My mother passed away and we want to get an expert attorney that can reopen his case and clear his name. Please help me..

    • admin says:

      Dear Ana,

      Like the other posts, call the office (419) 865-0513 and we will make a referral to you. It is hard to re-open closed cases but it is worth another call and to talk to a lawyer that knows these issues!

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  28. Aortiz says:

    Forgot to mention I always tought this was made up from the cousin to my mother to separate me from husband since my mother never liked him. Also my daughter was interviwd by a physcologist who said my daughter didnt show signs of been sexually molesteD. The investigator the court hired also wrote on this report this looked like a family dispute rather than sexually molestation. I have all those reports with me. I know my husband is innocent and my daughter was coached to say this things agaisnt him. Thank you

  29. Gerry says:

    In April of 2013 I was accused of molesting my 13 year old step daughter. these allegations are wrong how do I find a good lawyer in Michigan that I can afford right now cps trying to get my wife to divorce me. she does not believe her daughter so now there in civl litigation for her for faling to protect and some other things. but when stepdaughter was 11 she was chatting with her stepmoms sisters 26 year old boyfriend. we have notes of there conversation via her cell phone she wrote down because she had to delete on her phone so we dont see. example he talks how sexy she is and misses holding her hand” the father 2 years ago said he was going to handle it we thought it was well beofre all these allegation we found on her phone vi snapchat she has been on there with him and talking to him on phone. she made allegations i tried tohave sex with her but i was so big and she was so little there ws nothing she could do but to someone else on paper from court she states i tried to have sex with her but she didnt let me and she pulled away? I am so lost one say it happen all in the daytime and couple pages it say at night i would go in room and take off all her cloths??? I work nights? I dont have a lot of money but I need a good lawyer I already paid one $1000 but he didnt do nothingdont know if there waiting for civil juvenile court with the wife or what . the had a warrant and removed computers and some other things cause daughter said I made her watch porn and had some child pon on there. there is nothing there Im innocent.

    • admin says:

      Dear Gerry,

      It is not our policy to post names of lawyers here but we will be happy to give you names and numbers if you call the office. Our number is 419-865-0513. You are VERY RIGHT, you NEED a GOOD LAWYER. Sadly the majority of lawyers tell people they know how to fight these cases at least until they get your money then they don’t take your calls. We have been collecting names of lawyers for approximately 30 years.

      We are not lawyers but remember if you get arrested you have the right to remain silent and everything you say will be twisted and used against you. ALWAYS consult with a lawyer before you talk to police when you are the subject.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  30. Autumn says:

    Hi, I am needing assistance in the Atlanta area. My best friend is being falsely accused of child molestation in the sudden divorce that his wife just threw on him. He actually didn’t even know about the divorce until I advised him of the 911 call which I obtained a copy of. He is being represented by the public defender and his paralegal, I actually really like but I feel helpless and want to do so much more for him because this is not only eating him alive. Any resource or anything that I can get to help him through this horrible time would be greatly appreciated.
    Thanks

    • admin says:

      Dear Autumn,
      Feel free to share our information with your friend’s public defender. If we can give suggestions or make referrals we will be happy too!

      Kim Hart
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  31. Thyago says:

    I am falsely being accused of sexual molestation of my 4 year old nephew. My sister is getting divorced from her husband, it all started with my sis and I going out one night and getting drunk while her husband stayed home to watch over them, my sister then drunk texted her husband saying she was drunk he left his kids alone then came to pick her up without us asking, I told him how big of a loser and irresponsible he was that night and the next the he told my sister he would do everything in his power to have the kids never be around me ever again. He harassed my parents none stop, then one day punched, slapped and strangled my sister telling her he was going to kill her, police were called and she placed a restraining order, he still kept harassing my parents and I’m the only one that could watch over my niece and nephew since she works a full time. My sister was raped when she was a child and I have vague memories of being molested so just the thought of that disgusts me. My sisters husband was molested while he was in his LDS mission while he was 19 years old so I think he holds a grudge for gay people and I happen to be gay too. He already went and told authorities about me molesting his son and they say they have proof of my nephew saying I make him touch my penis every time I get mad or he does something wrong. Because I know that coming out and openly admitting comes with all this sort of baggage I’m extremely careful with how I treat them and how I act around them. I just hired a lawyer today but I’d like to know if there’s more I should be doing or types of questions I should ask my lawyer and if I should sue him for defamation when I’m found innocent.

    • admin says:

      Dear Thyago,
      Good move getting a lawyer. I am assuming your lawyer would not let you talk to the police unless he/she is with you at the very least! It is very early in the legal process for you and it does take time. You might want to provided your lawyer with written narratives for each person involved. Your lawyer will only know what you tell him/her. Knowledge is power!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  32. Ashley says:

    Hi, my brother got sentenced 20 years for two counts of rape against our second cousins. He got ten years on each count to run consecutively. My brother is innocent. The two victims grandmother, my aunt an there dad an mom brainwashed these girls to say it was my brother when really it was there dad. My cousin there dad raped me for two years an I ran away an told an my aunt his mother in law said if I don’t recant my story ill never see my brother again because she had full custody of him so I did. Well two years later my brothers in prison. He was 17 an they tricked him. The detective that itterogatted told him if he did plead guilty he would never see the light of day again an even brought in a 6’4″ 250 lb black guy an said these are guna be the kind of guys that ill make sure rapes you as we’ll. detective Barnes said an he if you plead guilty you’ll get a 6 month rehab program. They tricked him into signing a paper to waive all his rights. This is a bull shit case I have all of my brothers court files newspaper article all the info anyone would need to know he’s innocent is all there. There’s no DNA matching or anything. The girls parents didn’t even have anything to do with any of the trials. Come on now. Please from Atwater Ohio portage county an my brothers in Toledo, help us.

    • admin says:

      Dear Ashley,
      Have you contacted a lawyer to review your brothers situation? The question is whether he can withdraw a plea and win a trial. You can call our office for a referral @ 419-865-0513.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  33. Anna says:

    Our son has been accused of molesting his daughter. He got custody of his children when his son was 3 years old and his daughter 1 1/2 years old…they are now 17 and 15. He had remarried after getting custody and his wife raised these children as their own. They tried to have more children and after 10 years my daughter-in-law had a baby girl. Ever since this little girl came into the picture the older ones changed. The older children were typical siblings who did nothing but complain about each other. The older boy started getting in trouble in school and got expelled during his junior and senior year. Our son and his wife wanted to relocate to another city but were told by the older children that they would refuse to go. It was during this time that so many things changed. All of a sudden DFCS showed up and they arrested our son and daughter in law saying that he molested his oldest daughter and that my daughter in law was arrested for child neglect. Now these older children stayed with us (their grandparents) every summer and during school breaks. They were always happy, loving, and enjoyed being around their parents until the parents wanted to relocate. Our son was interrogated for hours and told that he may as well plead because if he went to court he was looking at a life sentence. He was told that he would have to give up all rights to his children or his rights would be taken away from him. The two older children were placed in foster care and his youngest child went to their other grandmother along with my daughter in law. Our son is still in jail…court is only help 3-4 times a year in the county where he lives. Recently my husband and I went to see the two older children…these are kids that stayed with us all of the time. They would not look at us and we were not allowed to ask them any questions about what had happened. Recently I made a call to DFCS asking about the kids and wanting to see them. I was told that I would not be allowed to see the children and that if I wanted to I would have to retain an attorney. They told me that once our son gave up his rights that he also gave up our rights. How is that possible?? I have gotten in touch with the Public Defender asking them to look into this case carefully but have not received any info back. We are just average working people and cannot afford to hire an attorney. Our son says that he does not understand his children and he does not want to go to prision for something that he did not do but now feels like he is lost in the system. What do we do??

    • admin says:

      Dear Anna,
      Sadly your story is one we hear very often. Many years ago there was an organization regarding Grandparent Rights. You might want to search the internet and see if they still are around. I have not heard anything from them for quite some time. Regarding your son’s situation, it is unclear if he took a plea or if he is still awaiting trial. If he took a plea in the criminal case it is often very hard to do anything about it. If it is pretrial supply the public defender with all the background information you can. Use what little money you might have to support he public defender instead of bailing out your son. These cases are very complicated and even if the girls wanted to recant they may not be able to out of fear of perjury. It is not uncommon for older kids to be threatened if they try to change their stories. Feel free to have your son’s lawyer give us a call at 419-865-0513 if we can be of any help.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  34. lisa says:

    Hello, yes another similar situation. 2nd trial upcoming (jan 14) first ended in hung jury. Allegations of child molestation and child rape. The prosecutor has added on “position of trust”. In this situation the accuser is a young girl who is not biologically related the the arrested person. He does, however, have a child with the mother of the accuser. The mother has documented history of volatility and anger management issues. The accused has no criminal history nor prior accusations. Before the first trial, the mother of the accuser deliberately destroyed items that could have been used to prove or disprove allegations (dna evidence). Then, at trial, she deliberately lied on the stand. The thing that gets me, is that what she lied about, I KNOW THE JUDGE KNEW SHE WAS LYING! I believe the pa also knew. Can you tell me if there is anything we can do about this? Also, the pa has made statements “i dont believe the mother, or the daughter-how can i get a jury to believe them?” the pa has also said “you will not be able to ask her on the stand why she called the father and said the daughter was lying” or “you will not be able to get on the stand and ask if she called cps and said she didnt think this happened”. I dont understand why this is being prosecuted. Call me stupid but something really doesnt make sense here. Thank you for your time, i appreciate it.

    • admin says:

      Dear Lisa,
      Perjury is not an uncommon event and is very seldom prosecuted in child sexual abuse cases. The incredible logic is that prosecuting liars might cause others from coming forward! There are incredible exceptions to the rules of evidence when it comes to child abuse that you do not see in any other crimes. Retrials are usually good for the accused as you know what the testimony will be! Experts can be very helpful in these trials also. If there are any questions we might be able to answer, feel free to call us at 419-865-0513.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  35. I was married in NJ 1 yr an 7mo. ago and we now currently live in PA. Things are really rocky and I know it won’t change. He agree’s on the divorce and we really dont own anything (we rent, separate bank accts., we have no debt together) we cant afford fancy lawyers. And I think the only bump in the road of this process would be the custody of our son. I’m in agreement of visitations because my son has right to know his father, but I want full custody. Maybe this is wishful thinking but I think this is a mutual agreement that will go smoothly. Any thoughts on how I can get started? Will I need a lawyer or can I do this process on my own?

    • admin says:

      If you cannot afford a lawyer and you want to do this yourself or PROSE, you want to see if there is a local men’s rights organization in your area. Often times there will be many men who have experience in prose litigation. You can also search the internet to find prose groups. If that does not work, check your local law colleges to see if they have law clinics where advanced students (supervised by lawyers) take on some cases.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  36. Angelina says:

    My husband just made false accusations of abuse towards him and my kids even though I would never do such a thing. He also now has an order of protection against me, which I don’t understand. The police came to our house a couple days ago to remove me from the house, they were very forceful and my kids were terrified crying it was the worst experience. I can now only see the kids on the weekends until the court date. I am just so confused and stressed and never thought that he would do such a thing. My lawyer thinks that what he did is just not right. My mother thinks that he is trying to get full custody of the kids so he could easily get his papers aka citizenship because he is not a citizen. What do I do please help any advice is appreciated. It also might help to know I live in Minnesota.

    • admin says:

      Your lawyer needs to be proactive. Gather letters of support to give you your lawyers and hopefully some of these people will want to testify for you. Also, write up your story about your husband such as how you met, dating history and continue up to date. Share this information with your lawyer. Depending on the age of your children, you might need experts to talk about the damage to parental bonding and/or interviewing techniques used to question your child.

  37. Shakir says:

    Hello All. Feb 2013 my wife left the house with the children while we were in the process of a separation agreement. She left while I was at work. A month later I found that I had a family offense petition accusing me of sexually abusing one of my step sons. Orders of protection were filed against me accusing me of physical abuse to my wife also. I was ordered to supervised visitation for an entire yr a c ps case was filed against me and indicated by the state. Feb until the charges were filed I kept all text messages and I recorded all phone calls. I immediately filed for an appeal of the cps charges. After almost an entire yr of going back and forth to court and paying an attorney to represent me, finally enough was enough. I fired my attorney and entered a notice of appearance into the record. My wife had a legal Sid attorney. When I entered my notice of appearance that I would be proceeding in my own behalf, I also hand delivered a copy of the notice to legal aid as they were representing my wife. This is when the dynamics of the entire case changed. I received all of the evidence from c ps case notes I received all of the evidence from the state central registry and I presented my evidence by certified male as well as in person at the cps, hearing. I went pro se and I successful ly litigated my case. I argued and presented my evidence I challenged the c ps workers notes I criss examined the c ps, worker and I successfully litigated the case as a pro se appellant. The indicated report was amended to unfounded and sealed. I than won Joint Legal Custody of my 2 yr old daughter 2 days ago. And I am preparing to file a civil suit. You can win, the only one who will fight for your rights is you, I did. I also had 2 alleged violations of protection orders dismissed in criminal court as a pro se litigant. This past sat was the first Fay in a yr that my parents were able to spend the day with my daughter. This has been one of the most difficult yrs in my life but I have learned so much about my own personal power as well as the wide spread injustices vthat are prevalent in this so called system of justice. I am a black man, a convicted felon an ex drug user a survivor of sexual abuse as a child. And for the past 13, yrs I have been clean cleared by the tsa. Cleared by ocfs, cleared by omrdd, I drive a tractor trailer and I deliver hazardous materials. I left school in the 12 grade and I have not spent a day in a college class room. Autodydatacism is the key. For all intents and purposes I have a PHD. And it’s clear. Hard trial is necessary to establish TRUTH.

    • admin says:

      Dear Shakir,
      We are very happy for your success. Prose is one thing in family court but completely another in criminal court. We caution people against prose litigation when prison is the penalty. No one can be an effective parent behind bars!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  38. Joshua says:

    Last week my daughter and her sibling (not mine) were taken by CPS due to mother’s lack of ability to provide them with basic needs. No running water, cockroaches, and no food in the apt. Mother in a desperate attempt brought up false allegations about me touching my daughter. Even though CPS doesn’t think I have, due to too many inconsistencies, the judge thought otherwise. Therefore at detention hearing my child is still placed in foster care. Asked 3 different people for lie detector test to prove my innocence, couldn’t get one straight answer. Going back to court on the 28th, was able to get a court appointed attorney but we all know they are worthless. How do I fight this and convince the judge that I didn’t touch my daughter. My daughter deserves to be happy and brought up as any other normal child. She has a great home with me and my current g/f, never wants to leave to go to her mother’s, and will be well provided for. Haven’t been able to sleep or eat much, it’s affecting my work, and even though I know I am innocent this is too much to handle.

    • admin says:

      Joshua,
      Even though psychosexual evaluations are not admissible under normal situations sometimes they can be helpful. You can call the office for further suggestions. Our number is 419-865-10513.

      Kim Hart
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  39. julia says:

    I am a mother of a son 14 .6 yrs ago I fled with my son to NC to get him away from his father always hitting him when the cops found us brought us back my ex husband drilled it to my son something bad happen to him there now 6 yrs later ny son is telling people I rapped him I fought to be in my sons life would do anything for him this came out of no where one day when I go to see my son at his dad’s. I video record just in case they don’t know I do it but just a few days ago my sons saying he loves me misses me and wants to move in with me now this I’m so sick over this not sure what to do I lived in a shelter for a yr fighting to be in his life to be met with this I’m so hurt and lost he claim’s I gave him a ruefi btw had to look it up never knew what it was he is 14 how would he know what that even is and I didn’t

    • julia says:

      Also I do pay child support to my ex husband and see my son maybe 1 or 2 times every few months not court order just ex trying to make my life hell I’m so confused how my son now claims this and believe s it

    • admin says:

      Dear Julie,
      We see these no win situations all the time. Sadly your son is old enough to know he is lying and also now knows the power of an allegation. It might be best for you and your son that you just visit and pay support versus bringing a child into your home again who could do this again the first time you don’t give him what he wants. When your son is an adult or 18 at least he cannot threaten to call CPS on you when he doesn’t get what he wants! I would suggest you talk to a lawyer about the ups and DOWNS to fighting to bring him home.

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  40. Lindsey says:

    I’ve been going through a very bitter divorce for over a yr & a half. At first I agreed on joint custody bc I thought that’s what would be best for the kids. Until he started following me & texting me inappropriate things. He would have the kids come home & ask me why I don’t love their daddy anymore. He had a girlfriend from work about a month after he moved out. On several occasions he would ask if we could go eat. I would say are you bringing your gf? He would say they weren’t together. But then I would go get the kids & she was always there. He always has had things to say to me in front of the kids. Like if my little boy spent the night with my mom (my kids grandma) he would say if you have to spend the night there call me bc I want to see you even though your mom doesn’t want to spend time w/you. I started seeing a guy I’ve known from work (casually) & no my divorce is still not final. But it had been over a year since it was filed & all my friends encouraged me that I should be allowed to have fun. So I went on dates w/him & hung out. He even met my kids a couple times. He has a lot of drama w/his ex who doesn’t want him to get to see his kids. I kind of knew about this before I went on a date w/him. She actually called cps & accused him of sexual abuse. Which was ruled out & the judge charged the mom w/neglect d/t the fact she said it happened 6 mos before. (She was also @ the time carrying their 2nd child) So he got his standard visitation. He took her back to court to get visitation w/the 2nd child & a month before she turned him into cps again (this time over a diaper rash & his little boy saying his dad hurt his butt. This time I guess the judge had no choice but to order supervised visitation. Well the interesting thing is my ex works for cps & found out I had been seeing this guy. I now have had a child abuse allegation for my youngest child which was ruled out. Then another putting a safety plan that I couldn’t have my kids around this guy d/to the fact that he has court ordered supervised visitation. I’ve been confused about it the whole time. For one I think he got this information unethically for his own personal gain. He never told me he had a concern. He has only voiced such concern after this case was closed & ruled out. I’m still friends w/this guy & we kind of support each other bc we’re both in situations w/crazy ex’s. I haven’t had him around my kids bc I’m confused about the whole allegation thing. & I thought it would be best if he got through the supervised visits. I think my ex would drag my kids through more cps interviews just to get back @ me. He’s the type of person if I told him I wanted to get back together he would want to but since I don’t he’s just going to make my life hell. Can I have repercussions for seeing someone that has had these types of allegations & has court ordered supervised visitation for 6 mos w/his kids then goes back to court? This truly feels worthy of a lifetime movie. The same for all these poor peoples stories:(

    • admin says:

      Dear Lindsey,
      Sadly it is true you can have repercussions for seeing someone who is being accused of abuse. Your ex legally can do exactly what he has done under an argument of “failure to protect”. I have seen parents lose custody of their kids for this as a “material change in circumstance”. It unfortunately is not uncommon for women to have to choose between a man and their kids. I do hope your friend is taking his allegations very seriously and consults with a criminal defense lawyer.

      As far as your ex goes, it would be impossible for you to prove how he got the information unless he is dumb enough to say it out loud and others hear it at the same time as you or he leaves you a message saying it where you had a recording of it!

      Good Luck,
      Kim Hart
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  41. lisa says:

    Same sad story, in june 2011 my boyfriend was accused of sexually molesting and rape of his exgirlfriends oldest daughter. March 2013 jury trial ended in a hung jury, June 2014-convicted on 2 1st%counts. Due to the high volume of child sex crime exonerations (due to no crime) do you know of any entity that reviews cases prior to sentencing? He has yet to be sentenced in the matter. There is a documented history of violence on his ex-beginning with her mother filing at least three reports dating back to 1994, and his accusation came within 7 days of the last known referral to cps on june 2, 2011. This situation was caused by a volatile woman perpetuating a cycle of violence culminating in his arrest. His only criminal act here is that the first time he saw this woman beat her children-he did not call the cops. In fact, everyone who knows her is guilty of the same crime. Due to the time span between alleged instances of violence and reporting cps has no founded findings. If you could please refer me to someone-anyone who could help, you could keep yet another innocent man from going to prison for a crime that was never committed. Thank you

    • admin says:

      Dear Lisa,
      You can call our office and I can try to make some suggestions that might be helpful. Our number is 419-865-0513. Sentence mitigation is different than the truth coming out. There MIGHT be a possibility of filing for a new trial but with no facts, I have no suggestions on that at this time.

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  42. Theresa says:

    First of all I would like to thank you for your sight. I have the same story line as the posts above. It is frustrating to see so many and at the same time have some relief to know there are others who know and understand all the emotions that accompany this traumatic event.
    It at least leaves me feeling that I’m not isolated from the rest of the world on this subject line.
    Accountability. I couldn’t agree more, it is appalling that so many in this process can walk away after they have imposed their beliefs and misguided or malicious perspectives, and those who have been wrongly accused are left to gather themselves up and try to establish a life again. The first description that comes to my mind is, I feel like I have been raped by Dhs (or cps depending on which state you live in) the family court, and lastly the state and federal government for deafening their ears to the families who have been effected.
    In Oregon, we passed a measure 13 law that pretty much locks you up and throws the keys away if convicted of a sex crime or what they categorically interpret to be a sex crime. They ran commercials depicting the worst of the worst offenders and drove the fear into the public. What they didn’t give you was the fine print in this law. Even a minor or misconstrued event can put you in this hot seat. I preach now to my 10 and 11yr old boys to never pee outside for fear they would be accused of some horrible act.
    I’m appalled with the “officials” who construe and manipulate the system for their own personal benefit or the benefit to their agency. I’m frustrated that they use the peoples tax dollars and funnel it through their system and line their pockets with it or waste it, and when I speak of this to those who have not ever been traumatically effected, I’m met with the curious looks as if I were crazy. Now I ask where is my agency that backs me up and saves me and my family from the colossal monster that has just raped and pillaged us.
    I’ve seen many efforts of people trying to ban together to change our current situation, but it is fractured and doesn’t seem unified. Is there a possibility to unify all of the websites and their followers to create a unified agency of our own? Some way we can get the statistics of how many families have been effected negatively by this broken and flawed system? The number has to be growing! What number is sufficient enough to be heard and protected from this colossal monster?

    • admin says:

      Dear Theresa,
      There have been efforts for many years to ban together. Egos, stupidity and inexperience seem to always get into the way. Our organization had moved away from the support area for just those reasons. We will continue to focus on the education issues!

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  43. L says:

    False allegations of molestation can destroy families, especially since cps believes the accuser without any proof. I now have no contact with most of my family due to some of them taking the accusers side, I am socially awkward so i was a easy target for allegations.

    My younger brother met a older women who already had a kid, and began dating her, she soon became pregnant and moved in with him, and became fast friends with my uncle and his wife (my uncles wife is hispanic and they speak spanish to each other )after she drained his bank account and maxed out his credit card he caught her with his best friend and she ended it with my brother.

    at that time my brother got into drugs and was arrested and convicted of possession with intent to sell, at that time i was going to school and living with my older brother and his family which includes 3 daughters!, and my younger brother moved in. She left my brother but since she had no job my uncle and his wife took her in since she had my niece. During that time my brother left his daughter with her since she was staying at my uncles and he got custody of her on weekends. Everything was fine till the child support and custody battle began and during one of the weekend with his daughter my sister noticed that she had lice and removed it, after 2 months of lice and the problem not going away my sister reported it to cps, a week later the police came saying that i was accused of molestation on my brothers 4 year old and having dangerous items in my room. the dangerous items was decoration swords and a couple pistols on display.

    CPS came a couple days later and they sat down and interviewed everyone in the house especially my older brothers girl who were 3-7 at the time, and none of my brothers 3 girls who i lived with said i touched them and they asked question like do i bathe with them or go in with when they bathe, although all 3 nieces of my older brother who i had lived with longer and had time alone with said i did nothing to them, my younger brothers daughter who i only saw on weekends told cps i did, hearing this i looked on craiglist for a place and moved out the next morning into a single room with a nice family. Luckily i did for next morning the cops were there again saying i had molested her again the day i was moving into my rented room, and to my shock the person who reported me was my aunt, who did not know that i had already moved out! My mother told cps and the cops i no longer lived there so there would be reports of molestation.
    she along with my aunt went to court and asked the judge to bar me from having contact with my niece since they thought i molested her and barred me from going to my aunts house since that is where she resides the judge agreed and issued since my niece told the judge i did in court.
    it has been a year and i have little contact with alot of my family since my aunt brings my niece to family events and i cant attend, i thought the drama was over but just last week she made the accusation that I molested her again! Accusing my mother of picking up my niece and bringing her to me to molest! In court my niece said yes grandma brought her to my apartment for me to molest her and when my brother said in court that wasnt true the judge said “so you are saying she (my 5 year old niece) is lying” the judge ruled that my brother was stripped of hir visitation rights and my mother and him were now barred from contacting my niece or approaching my uncles house.

  44. Evelyn says:

    My daughter was taken in May 2014. I have been falsely accused if MSBP or medical abuse. She has a rare disease and this is documented. However the doctors that testified never even examined her. They are from the local hospital not the one she treats at. They are not specialist in the field either. Both doctors r the doctors the hospital turns to for (alleged) abused children. One is here locally the other is at the “main”. I just found out my to be ex husband and his mother r all behind this. They went to this doctor w other false allegations that the dr would not use then my husband and MIL said about her rare disease and alleged that she does not have this disease. In court the one dr. Said she was cured this disease is not curable at this time. CPS still has my daughter she is in foster care. My son is w my husband who is doing the parental alienation to me. My husband has temp custody of r son cuz of the allegations. This is so unfair,Ike everyone else here, can anyone help me? I’m not sure if my lawyer is helping or not his views change weekly. Thank you for your time and any help u can suggest.

    • admin says:

      I apologize for the delay in responding. Computers have minds of their own! Please call the office if there is something we can help with since you posted mid August. Our number is 419-865-0513

      Kim Hart
      Exec. Dir.
      National Child Abuse Defense & Resource Center

  45. Mike says:

    I need advice.
    I live in a small town now for 5 years,and have had a great relationship with my neighbors ( young couple with their own business, Dentures) And the whole town for the most part. But recently i have been hearing people go by saying he is a bad man stay away from him, I have been single the whole time i haved lived here so i assumed that was the reason plus i have heard people go by and call me fag, O i live on a road that is only two blocks from high school and a grade school. So i know highschool kids are bullys. So fag meant nothing to me. Anyways my Daughters Grandmother Passed away and i called my daughter said i would go to pay my respects and she said pick her up at work and we went to the funeral And some of the family was their but i got a very very cold reception, and over heard someone say thats him who molested his daughter, and i’m going what the? So after the funeral my daughter and i end up at the mothers house, I do a little plumbing for the ex She has a boyfriend that works out of town, And she asked if i could fix the pipe so i did then. Son and Daughter and i went to dinner.Mother never went. They both acted differnt from the past we have done things together.Somthing just isn’t right and i can only think back to a time when When my Daughter was 2 The mother and grand mother accused me of touching her down there today(23 years ago) And i said what no!! i was tickling her on her Belly button and and blowing on it making fart sounds That was my conclusion of why it was brought up But for molesting her HELL NO. So now my Daughter is 26 years old and her Brother My Son of 23. I broke up with the ex 22 years ago. And have had contact on all occasions Birthdays, Cristmas, Just visits to go to the mall or what ever. when i ever i get the chance between work, I work out of the state so i’m gone for weeks at a time, And again when i come home i hear the not so friendly neighbor talking how i can’t stay here. This all came about the time the Grandmother was on her Death bed. And really present of the not so friendly neighbor. Obviously he has some ties or connection, And he is spreading it like wild fire And living so close to schools it will not stop. So far it’s all talk But it is pissing me off and i want to confront him. But it makes me sick thinking of it. My mind is going wild, Can i be forced to leave or go to jail. should i get a lawyer.

    • admin says:

      Dear Mike,
      YOU NEED TO TALK TO A LAWYER! Call the office (419) 865-0513 for a referral. I cannot give you legal advice but if I were in your situation, I WOULD NOT TALK TO ANYONE ABOUT THIS UNTIL I HAD SPOKEN TO A LAWYER. ANYTHING I WOULD SAY TO LAW ENFORCEMENT WOULD BE ABLE TO BE TWISTED AND USED AGAINST ME SO I WOULD NOT TALK TO THEM WITHOUT A LAWYER NO MATER WHAT THEY SAY. If I were arrested, I STILL WOULD NOT TALK UNTIL I HAD TALKED TO A LAWYER. I WOULD NOT TALK ON THE TELEPHONE WHILE IN JAIL ABOUT MY CASE BECASUE IT IS RECORDED. I WOULD NOT TALK TO CELLMATES ABOUT THE SITUATION BECAUSE THEY COULD BECOME A CONFIDENTIAL INFORMANT AGAINST ME. I WOULD NOT WRITE ANY LETTERS DISCUSSING MY CASE BECAUSE THEY ARE READ GOING OUT AND COMING IN. FINALLY, I WOULD NOT TALK ABOUT MY CASE DURING JAIL VISITS AS THE PHONES USED TO COMMUNICATE ARE RECORDED. If you get arrested go peacefully and quietly and ask for a lawyer.

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